Best Self Psych
Best Self Psych
Let's connect: call or text to schedule your free 15 minute consultation (323) 301-3129

Hello! I’m Pam Shaffer, a poly, kink, and LGBTQ+ affirmative licensed therapist in Los Angeles and I help people who are experiencing difficulty in their relationships and professional lives. Let’s work together to discover your best self.


Individual and Couples Therapy



Why therapy?

Do you dream of being authentic in your relationships and wholeheartedly engaged in your work and creative projects? Do you fear that you may not be truly connecting to others and worry about being burned out? I support my clients to explore their strengths and shadows so that they can live their best lives and have fulfilling relationships, particularly those who are defining their own narratives within the LGBTQ+ and poly communities.

People seek therapy for many reasons and I’m looking forward to chatting with you about your goals. Book a free 15 minute consultation by texting or calling (323) 301-3129 and we can get started!


Hear what our clients have to say

“Once you see for yourself how authentic and grounded Pam is, you'll understand why she's an amazing therapist. She is observant in her counsel and reassuring without being syrupy. Is it weird to say she has a youthful appearance and an old soul? She just feels like a friend you've known for a long long time.

I also appreciate that she is available for sessions both in-person or online, which gives us such flexibility.”

Adriana C. 5 Star Yelp review

Pam is just excellent, she is the logical choice for a therapist for those of us who are a little on the unusual side.  She is warm, open, friendly and compassionate while being able to offer insightful comments that are direct enough to actually help inspire change or clarity.  She is very well versed in LGBTQ and alternative lifestyles so there is never that stumbling block of explanation or any fear of judgement- in short she precisely the therapist I want to talk with and I would highly recommend her to you too.

Rebecca P. 5 Star Yelp review