Areas of Expertise: Non-monogamy • Creative practices • ADHD

I am Pam Shaffer (she/her) and I am a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist. As the founder of Best Self Psych, I provide supervision and guidance to our staff of therapists. As a therapist, I offer individual and couples sessions online for California residents using a secure video platform as well as coaching sessions to individuals around the world. As a coach, I offer one on one sessions for high performing neurodivergent individuals who want to have more authentic, fulfilling relationships. My coaching resources can be found on my Neuroprovocateurs page.

You may also call me a compassionate guide that helps you through the ups and downs of life with pragmatism and a bit of magic. I am poly/ENM, kink, and LGBTQIA+ affirmative and I love to help people who are experiencing difficulty in their relationships or feel stuck in their professional and creative lives. My specialties include helping people who are struggling with the effects of depression, anxiety, C-PTSD, and ADHD. 

I have been quoted in Cosmo, Slate, Inside Hook, Oprah Magazine, Forbes, BBC, Men’s Health Magazine, Women’s Health, Mind Body Green, and Dame and appeared on the Sluts and Scholars podcast for my expertise in sexuality, relationships and neurodiversity.

Outside of therapy and coaching, I host my own podcast Why Not Both about how our multiple passions shape our identity and will be releasing music as Pearl Holly in the spring of 2024.