Meet Our Coaches

I am Jessica Stoya. I bring a wealth of sexuality knowledge—both practical and theoretical—to my coaching sessions. I offer tips and tricks gleaned from a 15 year career in adult entertainment, insights gathered over ten years as a sex and relationship advice columnist, and a vast reference set garnered through a lifetime of reading and learning about sex.

I offer weekly 50 minute coaching sessions over Zoom. While my coaching style is tailored to each individual client, I specialize in being a non-judgmental listener, providing education about expansive sexualities such as kink and polyamory, and taking the role of cheerleader to encourage celebration at every step of the journey from where you are to where you want to be.

I’m affirming of gender, orientation, kink, polyamory, asexuality, and of vanilla sex and monogamy. Our work will focus on providing thinking tools, education, and support as you work towards embodiment and expression of your authentic erotic self.

I am Pam Shaffer, the founder of Best Self Psych. I am a licensed MFT and coach as well as professional consultant for clinicians and organizations that want to learn more about working with neurodiverse individuals.

As a coach, I specialize in working with high achieving and accomplished ADHD and combo platter AuDHD individuals who want to have more authentic fulfilling relationships. The people who get the most out of my coaching are often femme, ambitious and often late diagnosed due to their ability to hide their neurodivergence with their outward markers of competence. They are often highly professionally successful but struggle with burn out from "masking" their neurodivergence in their social and work life which leaves them feeling depleted, unmotivated and lonely.

Our work together focuses on creating a life that honors neurodivergence instead of hiding it and healing our relationship to ourselves which ultimately shifts our relationships with everyone around us, fostering better interpersonal connection and satisfying relationships overall.

My coaching work dovetails well with people who have been in therapy or desire to do so, as we have a wonderful team. I love collaborating to help my clients lead their best authentic lives and enjoy relationships that honor their neurospicy nature.

I am Tas Al-Ghul, and I am an ADHD Coach. I guide individuals in the process of identifying, organizing, and clarifying goals so that we can then create a customized concrete plan together in order to achieve said goals in a supported and manageable way.

With a decade-plus of experience in the field of mental healthcare, I utilize a trauma-informed strengths and empowerment based modality to ensure my clients feel affirmed and heard as we work together. I work with clients across the broad spectrum of races, ethnicities, cultures, abilities, identities, and orientations, including those who are BIPOC, LGBTQIA2S+, sex workers, and/or immigrants, as well as those participating in ENM/polyam and/or kink. I believe diversity, equity, inclusivity, and accessibility are crucial, and as such, the principles of anti-oppression are baked into my coaching style and have greatly influenced the multifaceted toolbox of resources I have curated over the years.

As a coach, my intention is to create and hold comfortable, judgment-free space for you that both honors and adapts to your particular needs regarding the aspects of ADHD you would like to shift in your life. It would be a tremendous privilege to serve as your guide in your journey.